I agree that it is hard-core manipulation. I get what you guys are saying—no fear, don’t buy into it, but I’m believing she serious.
What I found out in reading between the lines tonight is that W has already talked with a L, and she apparently will be looking to retain one. She claims she will go file for divorce (Me: “Great”).
She claims that since YS is nursing, she will get primary custody, and courts won’t split up boys—also, if she claims primary custody, I will pay her child support, according to her.
She also claimed to me that for most of the last year, that her IC was on my side, and basically agreed that things could be saved—and only within the last month or so (probably since W BD’ed me in early January) did her IC see things as not salvageable. She then later mentioned that her IC believes that the bird-nesting arrangement is what is best. So, which was it?
She also talked about how she really wanted to make things work between us, and that she cried so much earlier in our MR and that I wouldn’t do what she asked me to do earlier in our MR.
Then again, the gov’t could always shutdown again and she’d be hosed until whenever, and then she’s stuck here.
She asked me if I’m seeing a therapist (yes, started a new one), and she recommended that I take the parenting plan with me to the LMFT. I said, ‘you know what, that sounds great. Our next appointment is the 18th—I accept.’ Once I said that, SHE LOST IT, and had an ugly cry. I was afraid she was going to hyperventilate or do something extreme. But man did she lose it.
She’s basically offering me 2 options: take her parenting plan, or I come up with my own parenting plan. Neither? She ups and leaves with the kids.
“How are you going to explain to OS that he has to leave” and BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH. Me: I never said he has to leave.
