Thanks Dood and Dawn. I really appreciate the advice and it gives me some things to think about for sure.
Dawn, to answer your question, I do think my feelings are abnormal or, at least, concerning. Not because of some arbitrary timeline but because of the reason. That's kind of what I was trying to get at. It would be one thing if I was hung up on XW, which would be understandable and expected for some period of time. Or if I was just loving living the single life (I actually don't mind it all that much, but it's not the reason I am not dating). But the fact that I am not being proactive because I don't want to become vulnerable with another human being is a problem. The other reasons can flip like a switch, but this one I don't think can, it takes work. Meh... I'll get over it. I'm just not going to think about it for a few months, I have enough going on anyway. You are right, it is a mind set. I'll grab some books and read up on this the next few months.
I know this is a useless exercise but it is crazy for me to think of how I pictured 37 to be vs the reality of what it actually is.
