Just remember that she has a lot of built up resentment for you, which makes her kinda hate you. When she expresses those feelings, you just validate them, b/c feelings are feelings and not logical. You can't be logical in regards to emotions. Do not validate immoral things she says and do not tolerate disrespect. Those two things will be tremendous in your efforts here.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.