AS, very good advice. I had the opportunity to discuss with W that contact with OM and not informing him to NC and not blocking was hurtful even though she claimed she didn't want to hurt me. She acknowledged that she was sorry and we left it there. It removed the tension and was a good conversation that if she wants to purse a relationship with me that this was necessary.

We'll see but appreciate your take. It was the perfect approach.

LH19,

I see potential R because she has shifted attention back to me. Her efforts have shifted towards us. It has been discussed that we are stuck here until she decides to end contact and focus on whether we want to have a relationship going forward.

The boundary that I let down a bit early was staying in the MBR with her. I told W that I would not share that space until OM was out of the picture.

H-50
W-48
T-19
M -18
S23, S14
BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019