My W has been gone for a week now, seems like she is enjoying her new condo so far and things have been pleasant during our interactions...at what point might reality kick in that she's potentially losing her H and son?
Jac what would make her think that is happening? First off she is not going to lose her son. At the most she will lose 50% of her time with him. You would be shocked on how many WW are ok with it.
I want to brace you for the fact that this is most likely going to take years before it plays out. Most likely it is going to get a lot worse before it gets better. You are going to have to learn to have infinite patience. There are no shortcuts. The quicker you learn that the better chance you will have of a recon.
Early on you can't make things better but you can and most newbies do make things worse due to impatience.
Well losing 50% of your time with you child is a huge loss. I know that will really make me sad and upset if it ends up there. She does love him to death too but right now he just isn't the biggest priority in her life based on her actions.
I definitely was making things worse in the beginning and driving her further away. The more I told her I loved her and supported her the more she realized she doesn't feel the same right now. My changes in behaviour, while positive as she noted, only made her feel more guilty at the time that nothing has changed for her. She continued to say she doesn't know who she is and she has felt numb since her dad's cancer diagnosis. Our time at home over the past month wasn't exactly the most fun and enjoyable and she said it wasn't helping the situation so she felt it was best to move out and figure herself out.
She knows she needs IC for everything she's dealing with but I think she just feels overwhelmed right now and it's easier for her to escape reality (she has admitted this). Hopefully she moves forward with her IC soon.
H 37 W 31 S 2
T: 7 M: 4
BD 12/18 Separated 2/19 Living back together 04/06/2019 W Moved out again 07/15/2019
