Mike, Wrong again. My LD guy gets boners all the time and makes the choice to do nothing with them. So a guy getting hard often is not an indication of his libido.
In fact, I think that most people in a new relationship are horny lil devils so my opinion is that TIME is the only thing that will really ferret out the true sex drive.
Quote: One complimentary (suggestive) word from a beautiful woman is enough to "see the results".
Or I could absent-mindedly go to the grocery store in my small conservative town wearing a black bra under a white t-shirt. I'm now pretty sure the butcher is HD.
Quote: if only guys had a socially acceptable "moisture test" to identify HDW
You could look for dilated pupils but you might end up dating a lot of drug addicts too!
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
NMB wrote: Or I could absent-mindedly go to the grocery store in my small conservative town wearing a black bra under a white t-shirt. _____________________
I was in line once at the grocery store check out behind a nice looking, 30ish woman when she glanced sideways, reached behind her and grabbed my crotch. Apparently, she thought her H was behind her, but after grabbing me she knew instantly that I wasn't him. I'm pretty sure she knows now that I'm HD.
It was one of the best days of my life.
Mike - who chooses to believe that she really knew it was me behind her and WANTED me
Well kids. The great day has come. I'm officially changing my name to Mega Mojo. I stepped on the scale this morning and 5 more lbs. were gone. I put on my new black pedalpushers, stretchy t-shirt and platform sandals, painted my toenails pink and grinned at the mirror because I look as hot as I feel. (It's too bad this isn't a live counseling group because then I could ask Honey if she has a brighter red shade of lipstick I could borrow. LOL)
When my H comes home today, he's gonna have to put that lame "you're too fat" excuse to bed.(Pardon the pun.) Things could get very interesting.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Hey lady, I'm proud of you-- but suggest that the changes that have occured between your ears are more important than the ones on the scale. If you gain back a couple pounds, you're still sexy!
I was trying on stuff to wear to a wedding tonight, and had a similar experience. Not everything looked good on me, but the ones that did reinforced a lot for me. I might not ever be satified with my body-- that might just be a woman thing. But F-able comes in many flavors.
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time, and annoys the pig.
Hip-Hip-Hooray Mega-Mojo got f**ked Two times in one day
H was due back from the road yesterday afternoon.He hadn't called in two days so I knew he was upset about my show of strength in bringing up the issue. Finally he called on his way home yesterday evening after letting me worry about why he was so late. He said he had been upset and he apologized for being so childish about it and not calling. He said he felt half angry with me for being controlling and having bad timing for laying this on him now while he's stressed out about his new job, but then he got all emotional and said he was ashamed of himself because he knows he hasn't been being a very good husband to me.
I shared with him the things that I've learned. That Iunderstand that he has a high arousal threshold and I need to be more agressively seductive to overcome that and that he needs to understand that the reason I was being too timid was because I was afraid of being hurt by his rejection because I needed him to validate me as a sexual being. I told him that I'm working at doing a better job of self-validating and he needs todoa better job of taking responsibility when he rejects me.
He said that he could sense my neediness and that had been a turnoff.It bugged him when I would always say "I love you" after sex, because for him sex and love don't necessarily go together. I agreed and said "because what we do in bed isn't exactly what you would call making love" and he replied (quite brilliantly I thought for someone who hasn't read chap.10 PM)"Yeah, I know what a F**K is". I laughed and told him some of what was said in chap. 10. He was quite pleased to be able to regard himself as being in the top 20th percentile in quality of F**K if not quantity.(LOL)
After a pleasant evening with the kiddies, we actually managed to stay up later than them and H initiated some action. I went to sleep shortly after that while H watched TV in family room. I woke up later and realized that H was still out in the family room. I tried to differentiate but I kept having this obsessive thought that maybe he was watching porn on cable so I went out to the family room.
he was just watching a movie. I calmed myself down and decided to share my fear with him since I wan't upset and I just wanted to illustrate for him some of the negative thoughts I'd been having. Since I was matter of fact about the matter and took responsibility for being a little too fragile around the issue. He was receptive and even offered to try to give up porn completely. I asked himtoexplain tome what exactly it was that he liked about the porn.He said he didn't really like most of it, but sometimes he would encounter a visual image that would just instantly get him very aroused with it's novelty. I said Ididn't really think I would have a problem with the porn if he could work on being able to bring some of that arousal home to me. Also it wouldn't bug me if I was getting my share of action (2x week min.). and I said I would work on trying to come up with some visual novelties myself.
And then I got laid again!
So guys and gals, anybody got some creative ideas for visual novelties to share with Mojo?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
