New thread- Newcomer pre-bomb drop

[Bern19]

Sounds to me the like the affair is fizzling out and now she wants to get back together with you and dictate the terms of the reconciliation. WTF?

B your w has lied to you cheated on you multiple times if you are thinking recon and not on your terms you will most likely be back here again in a few years.

That's exactly what i was thinking. WW doesn't know the OM's wife has been feeding me all the info from her H as he comes clean. I guess I knew I'd get the whole truth eventually, but I was hoping it would have come from my ww. There is something to be said for owning your mess and coming clean. It takes nothing to realize your lies are exposed and you have to admit to them.

We had a pre-scheduled MC session for this Saturday that I was planning on skipping. Not sure if I should tell her that I'll go, but only if she uses the hour to come completely clean. I know I'm not anywhere near R, so I'm not sure if I should just step back and let her hit bottom?

I think she is seeing that she may have blown her chance with me, and the OM is finally moving on and she's left alone. I know she is terrified of being alone. 3 months ago I jumped at the first sign she was ready to R. Shortly after that, she's sending boob pics to the OM. I think I've learned that lesson and will take this very slowly. Right now I'm not to worried about whether she's comfortable or not.