Not sure how to proceed or move on Pt2

[Hurt213]

Lost,

So, I am writing this in the best intention my friend.

So you apologized to each other, for things in the past, I guess thats a form of closure, and a starting point for a new beginning, where, for now, you dont fight or cause negative impact on each others life. Hey, great man, if that is all it is, then thats great.

Let her text, dont mindread, answer in your time, if you feel detached enough to.. not mindread... if you do, then dont answer. because you will create covert contracts, and you will get disappointed, and you will be back to where she will see you as weak for it, and thats not what you want.

"Yesterday, I wanted to experiment a little" <-- So, here is where I loose you. It's not a game my man, this is life. Dont play games with your ex, she is a human being. I think, you really want to have lunch with her, because now you are on a good foot, (whatever its called in english), and you have unknowingly made a covert contract about how she will behave and what she will do if you go for lunch. You will end up frustrated, disappointed, and your progress with her will go back to ground zero, sorry.

She asked you directly, "so you want to go back together or what", she is on the fence, her walls are definitely standing tall around you, and you need to step back, stop experimenting with real life people, work on yourself, detach, show her how you are a great person, a person with goals in life, a person who knows what he wants, and does what he knows is right.

You are mind reading and getting hopes up from interpreting on her responses. That is not detachment my friend, and it will unfortunately come off as pursuit. I would hold off the lunch for now, and work on my self, knowing that hey, We made it a step further, now we dont argue and fight at least. Thats a win. Now back to my "make lost the most awesome dude out there" plan.

In time my friend, in time.