Here is a laugh and a half. W who in past always accused me of not remembering certain parts of concersations, (partial truth because I do have minor short term cognitive memory issues, which I am seeking help for.) (Years ago we used to date and sign important topics, but fell by wayside.) There would also be times where W would withhold or neglect to mention vital pieces of information, appointment dates and social events, etc.and claim she told me, and never actually did. She is such a "cake eating" behavior specialist who cannot see her own behaviors.
So anyways... Tonight I get home, go through the usual motions of "how was your day" asked how her father and mother was doing since he wound up in hospital with pancreatitis, and has early dimentia, mom in law takes care if him and our son while we both work. She took off today to watch our son, the house looked like a tornado went through it. Garbage and dishes all over the kitchen, living room, and dining room. She did nothing absolutely nothing all day but, browse online for her new fantasy life, and researching potential places of vacationing there. (fact) and paid a few joint bills. She made up a schedule yesterday of split responsibilities, bills, and parenting schedules.
So first thing I discuss is the in-laws, then I move to a bargining deal of since she took off today, I will use a vacation day for tomorrow to watch our son and relieve my mother in law, but on the condition that she leave work by 2pm to alleviate me, since i have IC appointment at 3pm. We both are taking off Friday for son's eye surgery. She eventually agrees to proposition. Neglected to tell me she took half day yesterday. Said sick days were dwindling. Since she cooked dinner for both of us, I agreed to do the dishes out of consideration, and thanked her twice for cooking. ( No thank you's from her for the clean up.) Last time I do that. Sticking with seperated meals and responsibilities F/T now. I eat at the table intentionally with my son. She as usual sits on the couch watching teresa psychic medium (more reality shows.)
I make a mention of her initial proposal of alternation each individual watching S every other weekend. I set ground rules of no switching or last minute cancellation without 24hrs notice. We discuss logistics of whole weekends with S and how that looks inside IHS. Since baby's room is next to MBR and Guest rm. Where she now resides. Its expected that I still hang in basement to "give her her space" but now sleep in MBR. I agree to hang with S in basement on "my weekends." N.P. (Going to be tough because he climbs stairs now.) Have to get door in stairwell.
This is where it gets comical. She forgot that I moved back into MBR, even though its been a week! She wanted me to sleep with him in basement and change him down there as well. (Whole IHS scripted plan.) So I replied "Wait What!?" Then it hit her. I'm still upstairs in MBR. So then I bring up topic of vacationing and parenting, just to throw her another curve ball since she was researching vacation packages, properties and arbnb in her fantasy new life escape destination. She replies back, monies are tight and doesn't plan on going anywhere for spring break. (Teacher) But shakes head in bewilderment and surprise of why I would ask that (denial) I then propose we each take a turn every night putting our S to bed. (Good practice for future BD and physically seperated single life.) since i am working 8hrs s day and driving for another 5hrs. Trying to keep new workout schedule. Probably will have to switch it to mornings.
