Also stopped wearing my rings when he asked for D but... I want to put it back on. Does THAT go against detachment? I love my wedding rings and what they represent and I hate not wearing them and thinking that this may be the last chance I get to really wear them.
My W took her rings off shortly after she found her voice when she wanted D. I noticed and it affected me. I asked her to put them on until after we D, which she has. I feel now that I should not have asked. If the rings represented the same thing to both of us and meant the same thing, that'd be a different story. I now can see to her the M is dead, so I should not have asked her.
I haven't worn my ring in a while because sadly when I gained weight it stopped fitting right. I lost weight and first thing I did was try it back on. Still have a ways to go. If it was up to me, I'd wear it until D. My ring is not a fancy ring, it is a simple band with the center raised and has a hammered finish for the symbolism. I like my ring and what it represents too.
It's a personal choice to wear your rings. If you love what they represent and want to wear them, wear them.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
