When they are home and they do or say something funny or heartwarming, I feel bad that my H isn’t there to share in it. They are only young for such a short period of time, it is crazy to me that he would give that up so willingly
DV, the other day S6 and I went to pick up some food (I know, I am so bad at preparing cooked meals for the kids) and when I got home, he was ready to throw me out the car to rush to the table and eat. He said "Hurry up dad, I'm so hangry." Not knowing I already knew what it meant, he tried to explain it which made me laugh even more. The first thing I wanted to do was text W, then there was a little sadness in all of that, and I let it dissipate. I eventually shared the story when she was telling me something he did to make her laugh. We still have our small moments like that when it comes to the kids.
Nic, thank you for the support. Whatever happens, I'll be okay. I've been happy before with way less. I am still blessed to be alive with everyone in good health, and the kids will always have two parents who love them. If D is down the road, I will be respectful and look out for our best financial interests.
MoveFrwd, that's good to know. There will be some planning and preparing. Some of it will be ahead of time and the rest will be when it happens. I'll have to jot down specifics when it comes closer to the timeframe to see what really works for me. The place I was looking at is closer to the highway going into work. I'll be driving out to drop S11 at his middle school and driving out farther pass W house to drop the little one off at his elementary. I'm looking at possible 30 minutes there and will see how that plays out. That could turn into an hour before sitting in two hour traffic. W has said she was going to have her mother help her with dropping the kids off at school or bus stop.
What are your thoughts on the summers if W mom is living with her and W says its okay for her mother to watch the kids the whole summer opposed of me putting them into a summer program every other week? The boys would prefer to stay at home and not be in daycare as they have expressed this past summer. This summer coming up will be a test of how this all works out. W has stated her mother was going to watch them the whole summer and would be there for me too, but we didn't discuss what that looks like with the 50/50 split and she didn't run it by her mom either.
(I'm inclined if they offer in the best interest of the boys to accept, but I am not relying on it. I can prepare to have a backup plan and reserve two spots for the kids in the summer program)
I think R2C said this, something about the parent who gets the children during that time is the one who picks them up.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
