Have you read "The Corrections" by Franzen? For some reason your situation reminds me a lot of the situation of one of the main characters in this novel. It won the National Book Award in 2001 and is chock full of HD and LD characters.
As long as I've gotten off topic like this, has anyone read "Choke" by Palahniuk, "Talk Dirty to Me" by Sallie Tisdale or "The Elementary Particles" by Houellebecq? If so, what did you think about the issues they raised about being HD or LD?
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
I've read "The Attractions" and it was great. I've put the other three on my wish list at Amazon (a great way to keep track of those books and movies you hear about and want to see or read someday).
Dave, I am with you, buddy. My father died suddenly and I think it was a blessing that he didn't have to hang around in hospitals; but there were so many things I wanted to say to him and to thank him for. It's been six years and it still hurts sometimes.
You know...I was thinking that I messed up on the sex ideal thing. I should have been the bad boy on Thursday, although I've never been good at that. Let me give it another try.
I'd take you over the washing machine and talk dirty during the process. Afterward (instead of the oral, caressing, and kissing), I'd tell you, "Remember, I can take you any time I want to." (long pause for effect......)
"Now, I'll go to the kitchen, start cooking dinner and washing the dishes."
I blew the bad boy thing again didn't I? Shoot! I told you I was never good at that.
Quote: Afterward (instead of the oral, caressing, and kissing), I'd tell you, "Remember, I can take you any time I want to." (long pause for effect......)
Actually, I'd prefer both.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
SC wrote: I think I just want sex about 25-40 times a month...Now, do I tell guys this on the first date? ___________________________________
NO!! You'll have HD guys falling in love all over the place. They'll be calling you at all hours, clawing at your windows, waiting at your door, and generally stalking you. Unless you've got a "frequent restraining order" account at the court house, don't tell until you know you like the guy.
Mike - who lives a vicarious sex life through the HD women on the BB
Quote: SC wrote: I think I just want sex about 25-40 times a month...Now, do I tell guys this on the first date? ___________________________________
NO!! You'll have HD guys falling in love all over the place. They'll be calling you at all hours, clawing at your windows, waiting at your door, and generally stalking you. Unless you've got a "frequent restraining order" account at the court house, don't tell until you know you like the guy.
Mike - who lives a vicarious sex life through the HD women on the BB
Okie dokey. So I just wait till I know I like 'em, then tell them and see if they get that deer in the headlights look and run away? Sigh.
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time, and annoys the pig.
I think it would be very hard to pick out HD people from the general population. For instance, because of my situation, when an attractive man smiles at me in the checkout line at the grocery store, my reaction is to put on a stony sort of librarian face and take a sudden deep interest in the copy of Martha Stewart on the rack in front of me.
Also, even among single people it would generally be hard to sort HD from LD because I think HD people are probably just as likely to be shy as the general population and there are probably a lot of outgoing, bubbly LD types.
There is probably some body language that might be revealing. One of my first boyfriends used to tease me because I unconsciously move or rub my feet together in rhythmic way much of the time. He said it was a sign of horniness. Interestingly,this is one of my LDH's pet peeves, it drives him crazy (not in a good way) when we're watching tv together and my feet start moving.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
SC - the only ones that run away will be LDM. Therefore, rejoice with a loud voice as they do...and check out their butts one last time, if you like.
NMB - I don't think it would be hard at all for a woman to tell if a guy is HD. Can you say "boner"? One complimentary (suggestive) word from a beautiful woman is enough to "see the results".
Mike - if only guys had a socially acceptable "moisture test" to identify HDW
