XW initially had an attorney, but I suggested a mediator because we both didn't want to blow this up and cause a lot of financial heartache, we didn't want the gov't in our business, and I wanted what would be the best outcome for my kids. XW found a mediator who was also an attorney. It went fairly smooth and we resolved everything in one sitdown meeting. XW and I pregamed what we wanted, but the mediator/lawyer had better alternatives that worked for us. Just a note for caution our deal was 50/50 and a fair deal on both parties. Even though XW agreed and was happy with the decision at the time, she was/is still a WW and feels resentful. Even though she filed the D and it was her final say so, she feels like she got the raw deal and I came out ahead. Go figure. .
Wait, 50/50 [financials/custody, etc was a better alternative? Do you care to share? And what!? - She feels like 50/50 is a raw deal? Do WW expect more than 50/50 (again - I am super new to this and just trying to absorb all this info - thanks to all that have responded!)
