Originally Posted by Bern19
So, unlike many of you. My wife continues to pretend she's working on the marriage.

Actually it is not uncommon for a WW to pretend she is working on the marriage. Especially early on when they do not know where they stand with OM.

Originally Posted by Bern19
She's accusing me of wanting to quit.

She is manipulating you!

Originally Posted by Bern19
I just can't keep going while she hides everything from me. She's great at apologizing, just bad at keeping OM out of her life.

Well what does Bernie want? Are you willing to share your W with another man? Until you are able to stand up and say this is BS, nothing will change in your situation.