Mr. Blue Sky

[Dawn70]

I'm far from being an expert and there are a lot of others on here who have had far more success than I have, but what stood out to me is that you have been divorced for 15ish months (your words) and your friends think it's not normal that you don't date or have zero interest in dating. I will say something similar to you that I said to Don the other day. What is normal? Normal according to whom? EVERYONE is different. I say this all the time, but it bears repeating. Everyone goes at their own pace so while maybe your friends think it isn't normal, how does it feel TO YOU? I mean, obviously, if you were interested in dating you would, but you aren't, so you don't. I don't understand why that is a bad thing or why it even matters. Just to give you a specific example: I had absolutely NO interest in dating for a year after my D was final...none whatsoever. Then, one day about a year after my D was final, it was just like a switch flipped and all of a sudden, I was ready to date. I'm not saying it will be that way for you, but my whole point here is that I just don't see what the problem is. If you want to date and you are sitting back not doing anything about it, that is one thing, but if you just don't want to, that is a whole other thing and you are certainly entitled not to if you don't want to.

I'm not going to say the right girl will come along and snap you out of it because, again, that may or may not be the way it works. But, if you want to be proactive, then follow doodler's lead and set some goals and take action. Unless I'm missing something from your whole post (and I may well be), I don't necessarily see your lack of desire to date as a problem so much as a mind set. But that is just me and as I started out saying, I'm FAR from being an expert.