Instead per his claims, he had been feeling like our marriage was in trouble for years, yet he never said a word. He never suggested counseling...nothing. He just decided to give up. And for that I’m angry with him and probably will be for a long time.
The long timeline is script. It's re-writing history. Do YOU feel he was unhappy the whole time? Does your timeline line up with his?
Originally Posted by Living
I also think he’s created this fantasy that we are still going to be the best of friends once things are over. No Sir! He’s convinced himself that he will be happier without me. That is life will be happier when he’s not married. He’s convinced that he deserves to someday have another meaningful relationship. For me to say he doesn’t deserve that he thinks I’m wishing bad on him.
Who knows, maybe he will be happier without me. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe he won’t ever regret walking away. He seems to be convinced that this is what he wants. Maybe I’m kidding myself for thinking one day he will feel regret and remorse. Maybe that’s just the part of me that wants him to suffer that thinks that. Maybe he will be happier than ever once he escapes this prison known as marriage.
There are a few old sitches in the archives (sorry, I don't have any names off the top of my head) where folks who were in MLC did speak to this detached feeling. To me it screams of depression, as that detachment in a large part IS how the depression manifests.
It is not worthy of your time to debate yourself whether you think he will or won't be happier without you. Don't do that to yourself.
*Best of friends after Divorce = script *Unhappy forever = script *Happier without you = LBS script (YOU can stop this one)
The fact that he does not understand why you are upset shows he is in a different mental state. As I've read others say about MLC - "his empathy chip is broken".
