So what's the number one rule in DB? Don't bring up R talks....
Mama your last post screams pressure. What happens when you feel under pressure? You balk....
You need to learn and practice the skills of drawing your WH in... Completely forget about dating he isn't even anywhere near that yet.
You need to move on and give that appearance. You need to act as if ---- and I know how hard that is. And, hello... be friendly especially for the kids but you are NOT his friend. You will not settle for bread crumbs. Draw your line and if he doesn't cut the mustard keep going forward. If he is going to get a clue if ever it will be because you are leaving him behind.... not kissing his behind.