Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[mikeyb]

I will sit down with her and discuss responsibilities and make sure she understands my boundary of not being taken advantage of.

OK so let me get this straight, you are doing all the cooking and cleaning voluntarily, and somehow that is her "taking advantage of you"? So now you are going to set a boundary that you will not be taken advantage of, and the consequence for her ignoring it is.... what? I'm thinking you don't understand what boundaries are. Read this:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2536096#Post2536096

I had told her I would cook dinners and contribute to the housework, not me doing it all myself. But she had stopped completely. I ignored it at first because it was peak season at her work and she was working a lot of extra hours so I had picked up the slack during this. That has now passed and when I asked her about it she literally stated she was taking advantage of me doing it. I don't expect nor have I ever expected her to cook. I have asked, but didn't expect It. I won't say anything about this right now though. I want to fully think it through.