13 years and 2 kids pt. 4.

[LH19]

1. She is welcome to join us, and I was happy and enjoyed me time with the kids, however I felt her presence there as a disturbance. She just looks like "so I ended it, im with another man, and yea, lets have fun and be best buddies,". Im not about that. I just shrug it off, and knew that it ment the world to the kids, and it was only 2 hours of my tuesday, so it was fine.

Ok so you start out by saying she is welcome to join us and then you say her presence is a disturbance and then you end it with well it's only 2 hours so it's fine. Why is she welcomed to join you if it is a disturbance for you?

2. She is acting VERY kind, and is basically trying to be the person she was when we were in a R. I dont quite get it, and I look at her actions, and they tell a completely other story. Example: So for 95 % of the time yesterday, she ran around after me, trying to strike up conversation, and joke like we used to. Then we are setting up an activity course for the kids, and she is beside me, helping out with the materials. I do as told by the instructor, but I turn one of the materials 180 degrees to the wrong side, and with no warning, WW just hiss at me in a low pitch voice, and says, "Hurt, its all wrong! turn it around!" <--

You have to make it clear that she is not to talk to you like that. Ever!

That shows me, that behind the nice and friendly exterior, is a person who has a lot of resentment, because there are more examples, where I try my best but do something she does not agree with or I do something another way then she expected me to, and she flips like a switch.

Remember your tendency for approval seeking behavior? It's back. Who gives a fuch what she thinks?

Its my best guess that this is because of some hate she has build up? am I right here?

Could it be that she's just a miserable bitch and she thinks everything she be done the way she likes it?

Hurt, I think right now you are taking two steps forward and one step back. I am not sure why but I believe you think you are detached enough to invite her along on these outing and you are clearly not. It's going to be a very long time before you can be around her and not give one flip what she says or does. You are trying to expedite the process and it doesn't work that way. When you are ready you won't care one bit that she has friend zoned you.