To be honest with you I don't think anything has changed other then they you may have been secretly getting your hopes up that he may be having second thoughts.
The truth of the matter is that from all my time here and things I read is that they have go through the process to see for themselves that what they are looking for is just a fantasy. For them to stay out of loyalty, for the kids, religion etc they will always have the fantasy in the back of their minds. Time and space is the only way these things turn around long-term.
The sad part is that by the time the WW says "holy $hit" what did I do, it is usually too late because the LBS moved on with or w/o someone else.
I think getting away for the weekend is a great idea. Don't tell him where you are going.
You will survive this I promise you!
Thank you LH19, I really appreciate it. Yes, I was stupid enough to get my hopes up. How foolish. I know I will survive this, I just have to get focused and stay consistent. I have to stop letting him pull me back on his dysfunctional roller coaster ride.
Oh and trust me, I don't plan to tell him where I am going this weekend. If everything works out, I will be gone before he gets home from work.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
