Mojo, how in the world could there be someone more HD than you?
CaDad,
I've been doing the whole PM thing and a couple weeks ago, I asserted myself and my desires to my W regarding sex, initiation etc. and it's happening now. I've discovered that I'm actually not "in the mood" as much as I thought. While I was thinking that daily would be ideal, it appears that my "connection" to my W fades after a few days. Every 3 days seems to be the magic number.
However, one of the things I plan to ask my W. Is to choose a week where we ML every day as an experiment. But neither of us are far enough along to do that.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
I know what you mean CD, I have never been tested either and when faced with the certainty of it I went all LD for a while but my desire is recovering thankfully. I can now see that dreaming about sex is inversely proportional to the supply of it. If my W became like Mojo I think I would need to have a couple of "down" days per week. SD
Quote: If my W became like Mojo I think I would need to have a couple of "down" days per week.
You HD guys crack me up. If I was married to one of you and you started getting all fake LD on me on Thursday for instance, I would just walk by with a glass of iced tea and say " It's too bad you're all LD today because I was thinking it's just hot enough for an "ice job"."
If you can honestly say that wouldn't work than maybe you are LD.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Quote: If I was married to one of you and you started getting all fake LD on me on Thursday for instance, I would just walk by with a glass of iced tea and say " It's too bad you're all LD today because I was thinking it's just hot enough for an "ice job"." -_________________________________________________
My approach would be much different. Every Monday I'd say, "Remember now, it's Monday. I'm just letting you know that no matter how horny you get today, this is our day off. No sex, no matter what!", followed by a long, wet kiss with full body contact. Then I'd make sure I "accidentally" rubbed against you in the hallway, kitchen, etc. several times during the day. We'd see how HD you really are.
On Thursday, I'd catch you doing laundry (or anything else), pull your clothes off (ripping them if not too expensive...he, he), and take you right on the washing machine (I'd time it to coincide with the spin cycle ) all the while saying how I couldn't care less about the schedule, I need to f*** you right now! Afterwards, I'd spend a lot of quality time kissing, carressing, and orally pleasing, just to make sure it wasn't just one-sided.
That's one HDM's idea of a great sex life.
Mike - who really needs to go home to a W that loves him right now...does anyone know of one?
I like this, day dreaming about what "ideal" would be. I've been thinking about it anyway as part of my assignment from divorce recovery class to make a list of the things I can't stand, and the things I want (so I can compare new candidates to workable standards).
I am not sure I need to have sex every single day. I do know that sex 2-3 times a day improves my disposition-- but I don't need that every day. There's some lingering effect, like with drugs. I think I just want sex about 25-40 times a month, depending on what's going on.
But if some days were really hot, they'd get me through the days with nothing. And I want an equal say in what I want, when I want it (ie not getting rejected, judged, turned down) rather than sitting and being available. Why do so many men struggle with that???
Now, do I tell guys this on the first date? ROTFLMAO!
Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time, and annoys the pig.
Quote: However, one of the things I plan to ask my W. Is to choose a week where we ML every day as an experiment. But neither of us are far enough along to do that.
Did you know there is a book called "How to Make Love Six Nights a Week"? I know that it exists but I can't bring it into my house because I fear it would be to my SSM as kryptonite is to Superman.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Actually, I own Laura Corns American Sex Diet book which plans out an entire month with a menu of variety. I had also bought the scratch off cards for doing various acts. These things are great for people who have a more easygoing attitude about getting into bed together yet might be slightly inhibited. In our sitch, getting into bed is difficult but the variety isn't. My W is a superstar kinkster occasionally. She has the coveted VO.
-Dave (who picked a Holiday Inn in Jackson, Miss because it has free internet in the room...even en route to Texas to visit a dying parent, he still can't stop the SSM S&M)
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
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