Still in Limbo

[ovrrnbw]

I hate to be sounding like your dad, but this is why R talks aren't recommended.

If you're going to go dark on him, be consistent. I think the hotel will give you some space. You obviously have a tough time operating in this situation.

I told him I’m tired and that this isn’t what I wanted for my M. I ran down all the ways he’s been selfish and disrespected me. I told him I don’t think I have any fight left in me. I told him that I feel like he’s slowly killing our M. I know stupid thing to say.

Of course you're tired. But you did the classic rip on someone. Well, I'm sure there are things in the marriage you could have done better too. Use his actions to fuel your detachment.

It seems like just a bit ago you were strong and still fighting, what changed?

Also, I'd recommend more work on detachment. Your emotions are still very tied to him and his actions. He's not going to act the way you want for now, maybe ever.