Therefore I'd appreciate a few words of advice kind of like Ballast.
Well first, I agree with Ginger that there's no point in communicating with people in other countries for dating. I had a woman contact me through a dating site, she claimed to be in Australia but her broken English was a red flag. I was pretty sure it was a scam but played along because I was curious to see what the angle was. After exchanging maybe 5 brief messages she told me she loved me and wanted to move to the US to be with me, LOL! Honestly I literally laughed out loud when I read it. My replies to her were just short of rude yet she had fallen in love. A couple of messages later she was talking about needing a plane ticket of course. I quit replying after that. I image searched her pics and they were on many other dating sites as well as a site where she was offering her services as a surrogate mother! Anyway there are a million different scams out there as well as a lot of people just looking for a pen pal. So stick to people that are relatively close.
Also when I started dating, the women I met shared all kinds of stories about their dating experiences. Let me tell you, women have it tougher than men in this regard, because whereas most of the women I met had used accurate photos and descriptions of themselves, it rarely happens with men. Most men use pics that are not them at all, or pics that are 20 years old. They routinely lie about their marital status, how much they make, and what they are looking for (JUST SEX). I heard stories that were... well just icky. Very icky.
So my advice is push to meet them to confirm they are who they say they are, and to see if any chemistry is there. Be VERY careful. Meet them in a public place such as a restaurant. Have a friend that you keep touch with throughout. Text her during the meet and let him know you're texting a friend for security purposes. If he's normal he will completely understand and respect that. If he's not you'll probably get a strange reaction from him and that's your queue to leave.
Also, same advice I gave B, do not engage in endless texting before meeting. When you do that you start to develop an idea in your head of how they talk, look, sound, act. And it's NEVER right, LOL! Meet first and if you like them, THEN start sharing a bunch of stuff by text if you want.
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When I tried the dating app a few weeks ago I made plans to meet up with the guy who was happy to get divorced right away. I'm glad I did because there would have been no use texting him.
Exactly.
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But sometimes you don't want to limit yourself to whoever is in your immediate vicinity and there might be a long distance so then what?
Well I understand that, but I still firmly believe you need to meet them before "falling in love" via text or email. Meet first, THEN engage in a long-distance R.
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These are the days when you just miss being married and having a partner because it's just so overwhelming to think about ever meeting anyone again and yet it's overwhelming to think about just being alone as well.
Being alone can be nice too. And usually about the time you get comfortable with the idea of being alone is when someone pops into your life.
