I got a text his morning that he fell asleep after work and that's why he didn't come over. I'm not going to respond.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
If you've made threats or set boundaries and didn't enforce them you need to do a 180. People will only treat you as well as you let them. And if you show them that you don't respect yourself then they won't respect you either.
If you don't want to be in a relationship with secrets, but you show him that you will be with him, in a relationship with secrets then what do you really mean?
He's hiding an expensive piece of property and sweet talking you about the child support. Other than that, is he meeting any of your needs? I hate to say it, but I think there's a trick up his sleeve and I think you know what it is.
I'm terrible with boundaries. I don't want to be in a relationship with secrets. What do I do now? Tell him I won't be in a relationship with secrets?
He is meeting some of my needs but honestly not many. This is exactly what the conversation with my sister was about. We talk typically once a day on his way home from work. This is something I asked him years ago was to text etc Kore throughout the day. Words of affirmation and quality time are my love languages. The quality time has been better as we are doing more together but the words of affirmation aren't there. We went through love languages together a year ago, so he knows mine. I actually pointed out that my IC said we need MC and to talk about our love languages.
My IC told me last week that maybe I can't fix this/him and that he needs to do this himself.
