Hey jac....sorry this is happening, just crazy that all the sitches here can be so very similar. My W was also sexually abused in HS and now 47 had repressed the pain all her life and never addressed. In the last year through soul searching she was tired of being a victim in her head all of her life and decided she was a survivor.
This led to the last 7-8 months of her having an affair and living a Girls Gone Wild lifestyle, including neglecting our sons one 22 the other 14. It's like she decided that she had been holding back all of her life because of the abuse and wants to relive her younger single days
Listen to what you hear on this site. The initial response is panic and the need to "fix" her.......don't. Live your best life for you and your son even though it will be incredibly difficult as you wonder what life will be like alone.
Read other sitches, post, read some more. Take the time alone to do things you have always wanted to do, whether it is just fixing stuff around the house or things with your son.
H-50 W-48 T-19 M -18 S23, S14 BD - 5/9/2018 OM discovered 5/10/2018
In house sep - 8/18/2018 Rope drop 2/15/2019 R'ing since 3/15/2019
