Living, I'm so sorry to hear your report. I second everything DejaVu6 said.
It isn't helpful at all, but it does sound like your H is going through his own depression/MLC/issues and following script. The part where he said that the love "just died" and that he sees it as something outside of himself, and that he does not see his own connection to his M. Unimaginable to us, but I do think from their perspective they think they are being honest.
Of course this hit you like a ton of bricks. We're thinking of you as you process this information and make decisions for you and S. Take your time in this if you are able to. You are not on a deadline, so focus on calm, rational decisions that will not cause you lasting harm.
