Nicole...appreciate your comments, especially your kind words about me. I definitely didn't know that there were very well defined rules for texting, even if they are unwritten. I figured so long as I was sharing a single thought or event, that the number didn't matter, but LOL I found out it did! And if anything given our mutual friend connected us, I think I was given more leeway than a complete stranger if I had screwed up somehow. Main thing to me is that she's highly attractive, maybe a bit boy crazy and she's long distance. I know I'm a good man, I know because she told me how much of a good man she thought I was, but one thing I'm not going to do is compete/chase her OR if I am, I'm going to do it by showing how I value myself and walk away. Nothing personal, just how I feel. As you say if someone likes you they're lucky to receive your affection in return. IF they don't value the chance they've been given, that's their decision, out of my control, wish them well and go on. I'm sure given her beauty she has many other men competing for her affection and so I'll excuse myself from her life and best of luck to her.
I do believe that somewhere/sometime the girl who I'm meant to give my affection to, we'll find each other and she'll realize the quality of the man she's found and I'll feel the same about her. As I've said earlier I'm a vet of OLD from 2005 or so. To be honest for sure I had ladies disappear for whatever reason, but the majority of my experiences were positive. I think as soon as you let go of trying to understand it, much like when dealing with a wayward spouse the easier the whole thing becomes. And like I said yesterday, for those of us who have been the LBS in our sitches, once you can drop the rope on a spouse to whom you were married, letting go of whatever you deal with in the dating world is much easier. For sure there's no hard feelings or anything like that with current woman so if we get back in touch anything is still possible and no matter what, this experience I know I needed to help me learn some things about the dating world.
You sound like a wonderful lady Nicole! There's a song lyric that goes "Yeah a boy's gonna run, but a real man's gonna stay" That lyric sticks with me in a gender neutral way as I think for ANY of us LBS's here, it's empowering, gives us hope and helps to remind us of how in a healthy relationship the partner we deserve won't leave. I am certain there is a real man out there looking for you right now and when the time is right, he'll realize the special lady he's found in you and do exactly as the lyric says. Just have to remember "good things come to those who wait!" :-)
