LBS dealing with WW (part 7) (piecing?)

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bubbs, that is something we don't discuss very often here, and I think that is because despite how diffcult our sitches are, we should in theory react the same way -- follow the rules, 180, GAL, and detach. I think it is fair to say that some of our sitches are much more difficult than others. If my H and I had a brief separation and there was no A, I cannot imagine it would be like it was. He not only had an A, but it was with someone I thought was a close friend and he left me for her for 10 months. We had a circle of friends and the humiliation was just as painful as the double betrayal. We have 3 Ds, my father died during this time and my oldest D had just been diagnosed bipolar. I had to send her to wilderness/therapeutic boarding school a few months after he left. So yeah, pretty darn extreme. I think that is why it has taken me this long and why I still doubt myself. (sorry for the hijack).

joejoe, as usual buddy, I can so relate to what you say! And thank you for the vote of support! It sounds like the 3 of us have had similar up and down feelings. I'm so grateful for these boards! Joe2017, I hope you are reading that you are not alone in this. None of us are saying that it's hopeless and you should give up, but we are all agreeing that this is SOOOOOO hard. There is that saying, "what doesn't kill us, will make us stronger." If that is true, we are flippen warriors!

Sandi, your words really helped me today. I know this isn't my thread, but I can relate to both the joes here, and you help me understand what my H could have possibly been thinking/dealing with too. Our sitch was different, but he has told me some of the same things. He says he never stopped loving me. But OW made him feel alive and appreciated. She was an escape from our difficult family life and M. He says now he wishes he could take it all back and that in a way, their R together wasn't real. You describe things much better than my H is able to. Thank you for that.

Blu