R talks do NOT work. Take it from me... I've had too many of them and they just pushed him away even more and cemented his position that we need to D.
Ask yourself... what would he expect you to do after getting that note and then do the opposite. If I were you, knowing what I know now, I would do nothing or I would thank him for the note and for keeping you in the loop or something to that effect. He knows how you feel Kate. If you keep hammering him over the head with it, he is just going to get frustrated that you aren't listening to him. Take the high road if you can manage it. Breathe. Keep yourself busy. Don't react. I know how tough this is. I also know what didn't work for me. Please don't make the same mistakes that I did. (((HUGS)))
