A hour goes by I take my shower, and go relax at the computer for a bit. Then she bursts out, I guess I can't count on you for dinner now. (I didn't cook friday, and was at the gym Saturday, and now today. She then goes on to say that she can't trust me. Things went kinda sideways from here, no yelling but I acknoledged how she felt with the trust and owned up to my mistake for that, but she persisted... ugh...
Dude, apologizing is not he same as validation. What mistake did you make here, because I'm not seeing one.
You went out and did the GAL thing and she's pissed because she doesn't get to sit around and have someone do everything for her now. She's literally throwing a tantrum because you're playing by your own rules and not hers.
Why? because they all do this. It always gets worse before it gets better, but not if you bow down and take blame for mistakes you haven't made. You don't owe her anything because she FIRED you as a H.
Would you let someone at work talk to you like this? You need to read up on boundaries my man.
looks like this:
BrattyWW: "I guess I can't count on you for dinner now."
AwesomeMikeybigballs: "I Don't like your tone, and I don't let people talk to me like that."
(see what I did there? we took the focus off of you and dinner and turned it into a conversation about her current behavior... using "I" statements)
BrattyWW escalates...
BrattyWW: "You won't tell me where you were. I can't trust you!"
AwesomeMikeybigballs: "I don't let people yell at me. If you want to discuss something, come back when you are calm."
The truth is, you WANT her to not trust you. It sounds so weird, I know, but it's the truth. You want her hamster spinning on the wheel at some crazy speed wondering what you are out doing. Smelling and dressing well also helps that hamster spin at an optimal rate of speed.
Keep her guessing, why? Because she has so little respect for you right now that she thinks no one else wants you. Make her "think" otherwise. You want her wondering what you're up to.
WWs are the biggest children in the house, man, and you kind of have to treat them that way until they get out of the fog. You don't let them throw attitude at you (ie, you set that boundary), and you don't try to appease them when they're throwing tantrums (you walk away).
What else is common, childlike behavior? Discarding things and only finding interest in them again after someone else picks them up to play with.
