The MLCer becomes the opposite of who you knew. They will push away anything and everyone who reminds them of the life they are running from, or will not go along with their new fantasy reality. Throwing away family is bizarre and demonstrates how much in crisis she is.
My W threw away her four children. Stating, there was only four things she wanted from the house, her kids. But she was willing to risk loosing them for her chance at happiness.
It is interesting she referred to them as things, and considered them part of, or furniture within the house and expendable. It is bizarre, heartbreaking, and a clear sign of a person over the edge. As odd as this will sound, I found peace in that. W threw away everything, me, kids, dogs, parents, house, cars, aunt, uncle, friends, everyone, presents, belongs, etc... It is pretty obvious this is about her.
This is about your W, not you. You didn’t break her, you cannot fix her.
Originally Posted by Hamburg
It seems she wants to just live out this fantasy no matter who it destroys.
Yes, she does, and will.
She has to do this, driven to do this. Anything or anyone getting in her way will be run over. She is running on emotions, scared, excited, frantic, desperate. And desperate people do desperate things.
She is already destroyed. Bomb drop destroys her as well. You have to rebuild yourself, and she has to rebuild herself.
Focusing on you and kids. Living the best version of you. All helps you.
This is part of the process, and it too shall pass.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
