Starting to feel kind of hopeless. I’ve been going out and doing the things but it just doesn’t feel like anything makes a difference. But I guess it comes in waves, which is normal.
H caught a cold so he’s been sleeping in the guest room. I’m not sure if he’s saying that as an excuse because he never tells me how he’s really feeling about things. He just makes excuses until his feelings compound or he can’t think of anymore excuses and then everything comes pouring out.
He ended up going to a Super Bowl party at his other friends place so we were separate for the night, but he did continue to text. Felt pretty fed up with him yesterday but he continued to text in the morning. I just didn’t bother to answer until after my lunch break. Feeling fed up definitely makes it easier to detach but at the same time it makes me feel so much more sad and hopeless. I think I’m just in the low part of the wave right now.
My parents call me (literally) everyday and they keep telling him going home (to Hawaii) to give him space is the best idea. I’m just not sure anymore because my therapist tells me leaving will probably be the thing to end the marriage and my husband seems pretty set in the idea of me leaving, even though he only vaguely mentions it.
Just maintint the pleasant disposition for the most part right now. His birthday is next week. I don’t have any plans to do anything for him, but I was thinking of at least getting him a birthday card. Too much?
Anybody else out there have super passive spouses?
