Don...so it was definitely her wanting to get to know me better first. Thing is this was not entirely a blind/OLD type situation. Our mutual friends connected us, we had tons of pictures with each other, FT with each other...so it was far from a blind OLD type deal. Also, this lady was #3 in terms of my interaction with them post-EX. With the prior 2 there was definite attraction from me towards them and there seemed to be the same from them to me, but they did not pan out. Personality wise there were also additional mis-matches let's say. The current lady, my attraction with her was extremely high AND she was expressing attraction to me as well. So this to me is not about being hurt by my ex, but rather this lady just really set off all the bells and whistles in me...which is also exactly why I gave up my mystery to her way too fast and maybe why she lost interest. With a couple of days having passed now, I'm thinking still it best to just let it go. A guess here, but if she really did have interest in me maybe she'll contact me sometime in the future, if not...just keep on walking along, it wasn't meant to be.
Stander...so I met my WW through OLD AND we had an online relationship for a good 2 months or so before we ever met up. Once we did meet up, we knew instantly. So I have seen that arrangement work out to a positive result....course i'm getting divorced now from said experience but I think it can work. Now my IC has cautioned that if/when I date I should not follow that example and I get that as well. There's just no one right way nor wrong way to find love with someone. My being silent with Miss Sunshine I could see her thinking I was not happy about getting to know her first, whereas the real reality is that she went silent on me and I wasn't going to push her or chase her...whether that is right or wrong.
It is sad the situation I find myself in with Miss Sunshine as I feel like we could have enjoyed and had a great time together. I don't like what's happened, but I feel like if I contact her now after a few days of silence I'll be giving off needy vibes instead of right now her maybe at least being curious what's up with me.
