Sorry, didn't mean it that way. There was always doubt and uncertainty regarding any time away from my kids. Your post didn't cause any of those emotions. What reading your post did was bring those emotions to the surface. I'm glad too because, honestly, I have to deal with them. And the sooner, the better.
You come from a good place, and you meant well. There is no harm taken. I know your purpose, and I value that.
I am grateful to get everyone's perspective. I also have to deal with my fears and emotions as they come, and sometimes they do come out when reading other people's posts.
It would be wise for me to listen to all advice and support given. I should have expressed myself more clearly. There were doubts of course, but that is either way, if she has full custody or 50%. We're not giving our children 100% of our time together and that's a reality I have to deal with.
I really don't see a problem either. It's going to be a matter of sleeping early, waking up extra early, dropping them off wherever they need to be dropped off, getting to work on time and picking them up on time. I can make the calls if I need to feel "Safe" in my decision soon or I can wait. I know there are options. I know I can handle it.
I believe W means well, but if in 2-3 years her new BF or H tells her he doesn't want me over her house every day with the kids and I had agreed to a standard visitation, I'd be stuck out. This way I am protecting myself.
H 49 , W 47 T 23, M 17 S11, S5 BD: 7/18 IHS: 7/18 - 3/19 Physically Separated: 3/19-4/19 Piecing: 4/19 - Current
