Dawn, i think you are not vulnerable if you are a love avoidant or emotionally unavailable. I dont think you can just choose to be love avoidant though.
Right now, im not sure if im that or maybe just not with the right person or hormonal. Or a combo of both. I do have so much love for my son though that it hurts. So im not a sociopath or anything.
Im just kind of noticing, that i get annoyed feeling like i might have to compromise. That there needs to be something in it for me or a practical reason that benefits me or i am not happy and certainly not willing to give. I dont know. Its hard to explain. I dont feel this huge desire to make someone else happy anymore. When I was alone, i did. I would read recipe books and think about having someone to make things for. Or go places with. And now i dont feel that way.
Me: 42 H: 43 Twins age 5 Physically Separated 7/2015
