Hit by the dreaded ILYBNILWY

[mikeyb]

I brought up the budget and how she was just complaining about not having money for herself but wants to feed people who are not our responsibility.

Was this in front of her friend? I can see how this could be embarrassing for her. Not to mention awkward with talking about getting her friend to leave in front of them. I would think that this kind of thing would be best discussed later. I also wonder if pulling her aside several times was a good look also....like youre hiding something.

Ive leaned that when my W has friends over, it's best to just be supportive of what shes talking about and if I have any kind of issue to bring it up later.

It wasn't in front of her friend directly, but yes she was around in another room. The food situation could have been discussed later but not so much the kid situation. It was less than an hour before I needed to go to sleep and I wanted to ensure they would have a quiet time set so I could get some proper sleep. Something I have been working to improve. The last 2 months since this started I was only getting 2 hours of sleep a night, it wasn't healthy at all.