Take your ring off and she'll be disgusted that "it's so easy for you to forgot the M", leave it on and she'll be equally disgusted that "you just can't let go."
She actually encouraged me to take it off early on (she actually told me to do it as she is classically controlling; my response was a very stern "no", which I was almost never stern with her given her past) - I was going out with a mutual buddy of ours for a few drinks and she told me to take my ring off. It was very clearly her way of trying to absolve herself of guilty feelings or actions (I forget exactly where this was in the timeline, but very early). I'm not worried about her reaction to pretty much anything I do at this point. She's been all over the place with how she reacts to things in general (not just my actions), so I'm just taking myself out of that crazy cycle. Sometimes she's generous, other times extremely selfish - friendly:rude - happy:angry - giving me space:controlling, the list goes on and trying to predict one way or the other is entirely useless. Since we had the conversation about not maintaining the friendship last week, she is generally neutral (exceptions have all been negative), but contact has decreased dramatically which has been liberating.
