Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 6)

[AnotherStander]

We rent, and both of our names are on the rental agreement (my name is first, though, if it matters any). The utilities (power / electric and TV / internet) are also in my name, too—just mine, not hers.

Huh. I wonder why she's so set on the nesting arrangement if you are just renting the place.

I honestly believe that she thinks she has the upper hand because she’s a woman—she has repeatedly told me that courts will look more favorably upon the mother—which is why I need to ‘cooperate’ with her on this.

She might believe it or she might know it's BS and is just hoping that you'll believe it so she can have her way.

She then told me about how she isn’t sure she will find anyone else or even wants to date and BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH (and inside my eyes couldn’t roll far enough back into my head).

Yup, straight from the "WAS Handbook" Chapter 7 "Things To Say That Will Appease Him Even Though They Are Not True".

I am noticing that there are lots of really attractive women out there—there was a rather attractive woman with a great smile in front of me at Starbucks yesterday while OS was at Sunday School, though I believe she had a ring on. It’s nice to at least see that there are other women out there. I know this sounds terrible, but this is where I’m at.

There's a saying that goes "Behind every beautiful woman is a man fed up with her crap". I'm sure the same could be said about men as well, the point isn't that women are at fault but rather that inherently, men and women are vastly different and it is a huge challenge for them to get along in close quarters over a long period of time. Don't fall in love with the idea of wiping the slate clean so you can find the wife that you REALLY wanted, because I guarantee you, there is no easy path to the perfect relationship. No matter who the woman is the path will be filled with landmines hiding just under the surface, you're walking along all happy and content and then -boom- your leg is gone So keep up your DB'ing, see where things go with your W. If it doesn't work out then you can cross the "dating" bridge then.