Into The Great Wide Open

[DonH]

It went off the rails in a weird way when I didn't stick to just saying "let's meet" and if she declined, politely moving on from her.

Ding, ding, ding - yep you've got it. Perhaps it's her that is afraid to meet and wants to keep the safety of the computer. I suggested it might be you because you've much more been bringing up this two hour distance thing when asked - you've less said she didn't want to meet. However that happens much more than you'd think. Anyone who has tried online dating will tell you of the many people who never seem to want to meet - they only want to chat. They always have an excuse. It's a lesson learned for next time. That's an easier change for you though. I'm still more concerned about how wrapped up you got with someone you've never met. That to me points much more to you being hurt by your ex and having attention from someone new taking that hurt away - even though you really don't know them yet.

I'd say you can still do this now however. Tell her you would still,like to meet but if she's not ready you understand but can't keep this as an electronic only thing. Put it back on her. You are ready to meet - it's her decision to make. Just don't let her dictate the rules to you.