I don't think it was stalkerish at all, so sorry if it came across that way.
Well of course it doesn't seem like it to you! But it was. Your H no doubt thought it, and I guarantee that OW did. You're just giving them ammo to tell everyone else about how crazy you are. It doesn't matter how sound your reasons are, just stay away from him. Stick to email or text for required convos.
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I can do the sums myself once provided. if she asks for the information then it starts to escalate the costs.
Indeed it does, but if your H just continues to refuse to provide it then you really don't have a choice.
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Therefore I am only a temporary inconvenience whilst the finances and house get sorted so that he can then afford to do as he wishes. Surely that would be motivation enough to get things moving.
Who knows what his reasons are. Maybe he doesn't want to be "serious" with OW so "I'm still legally married" makes a good excuse. Or maybe he's worried he'll lose a lot of "his" assets, or have to pay more than he does currently. Regardless, don't waste a lot of brainpower trying to figure out why he does what he does (or doesn't do).
