Adam, she may get a wakeup call when she talks to a lawyer. Sounds like she thinks that because she has been making more money than you then she deserves more in a D settlement, but that is not how it works at all. If she had her stocks prior to the M then they would not be part of the settlement, but anything she acquired after the M is subject to being split.
Also I'm curious if there's been any talk of mediation? That's a way to settle everything without paying huge lawyer bills and battling it out in court. It sounds like the two of you are amenable to settling things peacefully but are just not sure what is "fair". A mediator can definitely help with that.
