Finding the Balance then Tipping the Scale (TWO)

[Adam04]

Hey FS,

Thanks for the support and list. The reason why I posted that here was to help address the fear.

For many things, they stem back to our childhood experiences and for me, I grew up in a broken home shuffled from place to place sometimes 2-3 times a year. My step dad was rarely in my mothers life, but when he was, we uprooted because of him, when he wasn't (because he was physically abusive) my mother kept moving to run until he was locked up for 30 years. When he was released it brought panick back for everyone.

I've always known children to live under one roof with the mother in a split home, never saw men step up to have 50/50 until I came here.

I thought if they were in one home I would have certain freedom as their dad to visit when I wanted but in seeing the visitation calendar ( and words here especially ) and knowing my wife gave no chance to recon for the kids, I can not take her on her word. I need something in place for the minimal 50/50.

I will make it work. Need to put thought into it and prepare. I knew of individuals who would live in, there is one lady who helped raise relatives kids and she did that for about 100 week. Live in. I saw other individual people and knew some who went into their own business from my kids daycare but they are not in the area I'll be moving to and I feel like I need to trust these people who are listed through the school. I saw that through the ISD after school program list.

Over time it will get better. I know this. It's in the beginning so the feelings surge but over time they will be manageable and once things become a little more concrete, I'll know how to handle the day to day.