Thanks for the response Another Stander. I don't think it was stalkerish at all, so sorry if it came across that way. If I wanted to stalk I'd sit outside his office or where he currently lives. Don't have the time nor inclination. Pure coincidence that I was driving and saw his car parked. I don't hang out waiting for him.
I do have a lawyer yes who has advised me what information is required for me to make a decision. I can do the sums myself once provided. if she asks for the information then it starts to escalate the costs. Bearing in mind husband is a lawyer himself, he's either not going to rack up costs or will get mate rates.
Just seems ridiculous to rack up fees when he knows that he has to provide the information.
I think my confusion stems from the fact that I am the one preparing to file having stated that I am not staying in the marriage. Therefore I am only a temporary inconvenience whilst the finances and house get sorted so that he can then afford to do as he wishes. Surely that would be motivation enough to get things moving.
