The weekend was pretty good. Had S3 all of Saturday, went over to a neighbor's place and hung out, made food, watched a movie. On Sunday, I dropped S3 off with his mom and went up to Denver to basically chauffeur my buddy around to look at cars (his old one died recently and it would cost him more to replace the parts than the car is worth). We had a good time, ate some good food and played video games after we were done. Watched the last half of the superbowl, not the exciting offensive show I was hoping for, but I sure do appreciate a good defensive game too.
As for the ring debate - The ring is a symbol of my promise - not only to my W, but to myself - to honor this marriage and be faithful until the end of this marriage. I was hoping that the marriage would end with one of us dying (morbid, I guess), but divorce is in itself a kind of death. One could argue where the line should be drawn to consider the marriage dead, I have chosen its' legal end and have stated as much to people I care about deeply. And because I am a man of my word and I've verbalized the fact that I will wear it until the judge signs the papers, I have to see it through to the end. I can definitely see there are other milestones where the marriage could be considered dead to the point of removing the ring (BD, discovering an affair, papers being served, etc.).
I know I sound like some "morally superior pompous @ss" and quite frankly I might be one (should probably ask some people if I come across this way IRL), but having a clear set of morals and following them has made coping with the situation much easier. I'm honestly not interested in taking my W back at this point, but my moral compass doesn't allow me to look for another relationship until the D is final which frees me to focus on myself and the boys.
