I know it's really tempting to monitor her for the results of your DB'ing but please try to refrain. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Early on when you start DB'ing she will wonder why you are acting different, but it doesn't mean she's changed her mind or that things are getting better. They won't, not for a long time. It's going to take many months or even a year or more before she might start to turn around, so try and be patient.
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She clearly didn't like it because she asked several times what was bothering me.
Also try not to mind-read. You have no idea what she's thinking and you can't hope to.
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2) She kept trying to find reasons to touch me, which was strange because she hasn't done that in months. I'm not reading anything into, I just thought it was odd.
When you pull back and remove all pressure then often they will do things like this, it's kind of a temperature check. Just keep doing what you're doing.
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Another thing I found odd was she was making future plans with my step-sister. W asked my step-sister if she wanted my W to help move her into college in the fall. I don't understand what she is thinking. At that point we will be almost a year from BD. I know I'm mind reading here, but I believe she thinks everything will stay the same if we D.
You are probably right about that. She's still full-tilt towards ending things, but she thinks she'll still be able to cake-eat and do family stuff when she feels like it. And actually it's not odd at all, it's very common for WAS's to say stuff like this.
