JB 42 I feel ya bro. Going through this stuff will reek havoc on your emotions and self esteem. Even though I haven't yet, because of time and $ GAL, Detach, Read, Believe none of what you hear and half if what they say. Dnot let them play the victim. They need to own up to their delusion too. After 5 months of almost having a nervous breakdown, everyone here is very supportive. Made it crystal clear to W last night, she can do whatever the hell she wants and go where she wants, but our child stays in this state. I finally grew a sack today, hopped into the MBR at 4am, and told her when she woke, I'm staying here, you can stay here, or go across to the guest room. I'm not moving into the basement. Don't feel compelled to help her live her life. She will just throw you bullshit breadcrumbs. My W ring came off last week, now it mysteriously disappeared. I just put all her pictures away with my ring. Last week it would have stung emotionally. You will get stronger, just be patient with yourself.
