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[peacetoday]

I don't think any MLCer will find their happiness that way--with OW/OP

They may have been unhappy, but leaving and finding an affair partner is not the solution for the long term
maybe for the short term, it may work-

As I have seen from my XH-
He is a mess, His ow/wife and him were D or maybe now together
I don't keep in touch with them
But due to his last VM, and according to his friend that did speak to him- and her last FB Message...they seem very unhappy together and unhappy period-
this is 12 years down the road from bomb..
he is far from the happy, stable, successful man he left to become-
he never found himself
Time goes so fast

So I also wish him and his OW the best--as you do

but as far as it being the real deal-- I seriously doubt that- and will be surprised if it lasts

I think the more we bless them in their new R and approve of the OP/ the sooner it ends-

MY XH is probably a rare one because it lasted so long-they are basically addicts together- nothing more
She obviously got the worst of him as he was a sober hard working man with me-
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