I again wish W the best. I again can't imagine how she in mentally struggling This must be hard for her. I do see her emotions are everywhere
But I also here W And OW are playing house very well. Buying more things together. So I honestly think this must be the Real deal for W amd I wish her the best.
Something the LBS struggles to get through - letting go.
You are working towards it, and making great progress. Letting go with love and compassion is very good for you, and I see you getting there, the “wishing her the best” kind of ideas.
You can see how much W struggles mentally. How her emotions are all over the places. I am changing a line from your post to see if this is more accurate - for you.
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So I honestly think feel this must be the Real deal for W amd I wish her the best.
I am pretty sure you intellectually “know”, you stated as much just before this. In all her struggles and conflict there is no way her and OW are the real deal.
Also you only hear that W and OW are playing house very well. I also suffered from that. My W and OM, out shopping, buying a new freezer, excercise bike, etc... Well that’s that, it’s the real deal, look at what going on DnJ, etc.. Well no. Just my feelings.
Your W and OW do not have a healthy relationship. They are playing house, convincingly, they have too, to convice themselves. That is what you see and hear about, the shinny outer veneer, not the relationship lacking in substance built upon a foundation of lies and deceit. It is true, their relationship may last, although the chances are against it. There is not much you can do in that regard, except to just let go.
Letting go is part of our emotional, intellectual, and spiritual paths - the feelings, thoughts, and beliefs. Thoughts and feelings will influence your beliefs, try to remain accurate. Understanding our thoughts is much easier than “understanding” our feelings.
Feelings for accepted, thoughts are understood.
Let go in both thought and heart. Understand and accept.
Let it go to God.
marina, you are definitely seeing more clearly. Keep your heading while you move forward.
You are a very good person, and I know you wish her the best. We just don’t know what the best actually is. Have faith, He knows.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
