I can't tell you what weight looks good or not on a woman. I can tell you a few things though. Most men don't like unnaturally skinny women. It is the curves that count. Most women I have have known could have varied 30 pounds in their weight and I don't think I would have noticed.
The part that bothers me most is what you said about the mirror. Be sure that you don't compare yourself to other women. If you must, however, make sure that they are REAL, not fixed up models. Photos are commonly retouched and computer imaged pictures are modified heavily for magazines, Hips are shaved, blemishes covered and all manner of crap done to the models - all without surgery!
When is the last time you saw someone with plastic looking perfect skin that was a uniform shade with no blemishes other than in a magazine....
I don't know your background, NoMoJo, but my personal experience when I was a wee bit younger, afforded me the opportunity to see a lot of naked women, up close and personal. No two were alike, and none of them had plastic skin or perfect proportions. I tell you, it was heaven! I loved it. All shapes and sizes :-) Oh, but I am married for a long time now, and I never think about those things anymore. They are in the past after all (BS ALERT!).
On my soapbox; I wish all women could enjoy themselves for who they are and not for what TV or cheap rags tell them they should be. In my opinion, feminists should be fighting to get rid of crap magazines that mostly women read. Stop making images of idealistic models that DON"T EXIST IN NATURE, a status quo. Victoria's Secret is that even her models don't look like her models!
Off my soapbox now.
NoMoJo, I bet you look great. Don't you dare let ANYONE, including your husband, start screwing with what you see in yourself. Your own common sense will tell you what looks good or not. If you see yourself start making assumptions that you would consider extreme when made by someone else, then discard the notion.
"Well honey, if you just lost a few pounds, you would look better" BOOOIIIINNG. That's the sound of you clubbing him upside the head. When he comes around, you can tell him to think again...
Sorry, but I am a firm believer in certain behaviors being unacceptable, regardless of any political bent. Dumping my problem onto someone else by belittling them is simply bad form. In southern speak, that would be called "chicken sh!t"
All the best! -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
