Yes Women's Infidelity books are eye opening. I mentioned that I had private consultation with another author early in my sitch before on this forum, and the author of those two books is the author I've eluded to.
IH its easy to get jaded after getting hurt. I was there myself. After all, my wife was an upstanding church goer that taught Bible class for the young kids and was deeply involved with our congregation. She even looks back now and can't believe her actions and thoughts and feelings. I've told about her dating profile I discovered on a dating site. I even took screenshots of it. The lengthy description she put on it showed her internal struggle. She referred to herself as a good girl with a bit of a rebel streak. Mentioned she taught Bible class, didn't drink, smoke, do drugs, or use bad language. Told how she couldn't date yet because she was still married and wanted out even though her husband wanted to try. It was a very good insight into what she was thinking and feeling.
My point is that this thing your W is going through is very real to her. If you love her you'll understand that she is struggling. She wants to stay. She wants to go. I truly believe that WWs don't lie so much as they honestly don't know what they want deep down. They are confused. My wife told me that when she felt one way at a particular time that could change in five minutes.
Do all women go through that? I doubt it. Some do. Some don't. Some are more susceptible to media messages and imagery. It can be easy to paint them all with the same brush. But the truth is that they aren't all on the same journey. Some never will be.
So deal with your W as the unique individual she is. Avoid the temptation to chalk it up to women being women. Plenty of men go through the same kind of thing.
Last edited by Steve85; 02/03/1912:37 PM.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
